Some of the posts on this sub drive me insane. I’m specifically referring to the genre of “how do I operate as a human being” posts. “Should I as a stub year stay on my computer for 8 hours on Christmas Day because a first year might be online for 8 hours?” “My [health issue] is acting up, can I schedule a Dr appt without making a partner mad?”
Ask yourself - are you a grown ass adult? Take some agency and control of your life. If you fuck up and someone gets mad about it, you’ll learn and live just like any other adult would.
A lot of why our job sucks is because those who never learned how to adult tend to become partners and subject us to their own ignorant infantilizing world view. Sometimes I hate how BigLaw can be most people’s first real corporate job.
Edit: TLDR STOP ASKING FOR PERMISSION FOR EVERYTHING. Why are we giving other adults power over our own personal lives lol. Only when we adopt this mentality en masse will there be any substantial change in the culture of this industry.