Which lateral offer would you choose?

Hi all, I'm a 4th year midlevel in lit and regulatory. Hate my current firm because of backstabbing and politics among associates, as well as getting no mentorship from senior lawyers despite good reviews. I also suspect my firm PIPs people around my year. Anyway I'm weighing two options now:

One is biglaw in my desired regulatory practice area with some very interesting work, but it's in a different state/timezone than my spouse, so to make this work I will need to live 5+ hrs apart (think bicoastal). Spouse is a medical resident and cannot move with me until 3-4 years later. I will have to move back to my spouse within 1-2 years to make this work. I will also take a 1 year class cut since I'm doing a bit of a retool. No office transfer possible, since the group likes face time. The group is busy and not particularly lifestyle-friendly. No kids in the picture in the next few years, but LDR will be tough.
Another is biglaw litigation (no regulatory work) and in my current city. No mention of class year cut yet, but the group explained to me that they were initially looking to hire someone more junior than me so they needed a business case to hire me; however, they have a few big clients abroad and I have a desired language skill. It is heavily implied that I would be expected to spend a lot of late nights helping with BD across time zones for other practice groups as well given my language skills, in exchange for client FaceTime and possible promotion or networking opportunities.

Part of me is also burned out from BL but alas I only got BL offers. No golden handcuffs, I've had solid savings and no debt.

For background: for the past 5-6 months I interviewed with a bunch of boutique firms but did not find a fit, and none of them seemed like one of those famed 1600 billable/lifestyle firms. Long-term I do want to work in house in compliance and regulatory (my preference is I do not work as litigation counsel, because I do not particularly like litigating or managing cases).

For various reasons I cannot work in federal/state government so I didn't even apply. It’s also possible/wont break the bank for me to find a nonprofit legal job, but I don’t enjoy working only on one narrow issue area. I tried looking in house but got no offers. Market seems bad.

I know this is a personal decision but would love to hear strangers’ takes to see if I missed anything and get a new perspective.

Edit: I'm risking a PIP because my hours are low and my group is doling out warnings. I should still have a few months but no more than that if I stay.

Author: VegetableAd1645